Dance With The Elephant

Two Lives With Two Wives PART 2

An excerpt from the book:  Dance With The Elephant - Life's Cosmic Equation.

As I look back on the divorce and the pain and suffering it caused for so many people, I find myself dancing with the yin and yang of life and the capacity for the human brain to rationalize almost anything.

Reflecting on the yin of my story,a part of me still has a lesbian-divorce-knife deeply penetrating in my side. A knife that inflicts piercing emotional pain any time I decide to mentally twist and turn it. I will always regret the torment and suffering my two sons had to endure. The divorce was bad enough, but the idea of my two sons being raised in an openly lesbian home, being chastised daily in school by kids mirroring the values of their conservative iron-range parents, just the thought breaks my heart to this day. My only hope is that my sons have or will someday forgive me for the choices I made.

When I shift my conscious mind to the yang of this story, however, the fact is my two boys grew up in a home where they were loved and supported by their mother and her partner. On weekends whenever possible, during holidays, and every summer, they had a father and a step-mother who loved and cared for them dearly. Was it perfect? Was it ideal? Hell no! But whose life is? And who am I to think I can determine the journey and destiny of my children's apple seeds and the destiny of their spiritual guides? I will always love and I take great pride in my first two sons and the direction in life they have chosen for themselves. I also wish the very best for my ex-wife and her partner. I am happy to see that our society continues to evolve in a direction of equal rights for the gay community.

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Here I am writing down my thoughts on the page. For more than a year I have dedicated my life to exploring the dynamics of human manifestation, unity, and transformation. What was a dream to write a single volume has now transformed into a vade mecum (a guide constantly referenced) and what will be the supporting trilogy. I would have never given credence to such an undertaking back when I first got married twenty-five years ago and the sixteen tons of life experience that took place in between.

I think the first time I can remember someone using the phrase "the elephant in the room" was during some group counseling sessions I participated in when I was going through my divorce. For me, at the time, the elephant stood for the fact that my wife, after two children together, twelve years of marriage, and five years of courtship before that, decided to come out of the closet and dump me for her girl friend on the softball team. So for me, the elephant was my story of personal loss and anguish. It took me over three years to finally be able to talk about this elephant without trying to run and hide.

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We are constantly reminded to "use it or lose it," and new research from the University of Texas at Dallas shows the same is true for keeping your brain up to speed.

No one likes the idea of slowing down as they age, but a new study suggests that challenging yourself to learn a new skill can bring noticeable benefits to an aging mind.

The Administration on Aging predicts that there will be 72.1 million Americans aged 65 and over by the year 2030 - 19% of the population. And the new research provides insight into how everyday activities contribute to cognitive vitality as we age.

Lead researcher, Denise Park, PhD, from the University's School of Behavioral and Brain Sciences, says:

"We need, as a society, to learn how to maintain a healthy mind, just like we know how to maintain vascular health with diet and exercise."

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Love at First Sight, Is It Possible?

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Theme: LOVE

Love at first sight may have a biological basis

By Laura Schwecherl,June 24, 2013

It’s Saturday night and the bar is packed. A beautiful brunette is sitting at the bar, sipping a vodka soda and chatting with a friend. Out of the corner of her eye, she catches the glimpse of a man. Their eyes lock.

And they lived happily ever after.

But is it really that easy?

In fact, researchers who study human attraction say, people do tend to form opinions quickly when it comes to romance. Some think it takes just three minutes to decide whether someone’s a potential mate (and that’s before the drinks arrive).

Findings about friends who click immediately might also apply to romantic partnerships. In one study on friendships, people who enjoyed the first few minutes together were likely to develop a close relationship after nine weeks.

But instant attraction isn’t just in our heads: There may be a biological basis to love at first sight.

Studies have found that animals are more likely to mate with partners they’re genetically compatible with. It’s unclear whether this research applies to humans, but some scientists think we might be preprogrammed to spot “the one.” Romantic attraction might serve an evolutionary function: We seek out specific people who will be suitable mates, and we give everyone else the boot.

But meeting that special someone’s gaze and falling in love may be a bit more complicated.

Although about half the American population believes in love at first sight, not everyone falls head over heels right away.

Perhaps surprisingly, women aren’t always the romantics: One study found that men experience love at first sight more often than women. Researchers think that’s because men respond to physical cues more readily than women, and women tend to develop trust more gradually than men.

Also, people might be more inclined to believe in love at first sight when they’re younger. A Gallup poll revealed that folks older than 50 are less likely than younger ones to think people can fall in love immediately (possibly because they’ve had more romantic relationships with different partners).

But it’s unclear how often love at first sight turns into a successful partnership.

One survey in Israel found that only about 10 percent of people say their long-term relationships began that way. While people can be instantly attracted to each other, some scientists say that being in love means really getting to know someone over time.

So don’t throw in the towel if that first date didn’t go so well. Psychologists believe more interactions with someone can make them look more attractive and intelligent. It may be worth giving love at second or third sight a chance, too.

 

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Exclusive Story on Creative Power - Dance With The Elephant : Life's Cosmic Equation

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This story is from Don Calhoun, co-author of the book, Dance With The Elephant:Life's Cosmic Equation.  In this story he writes about his Creative Power and what drives him!  We hope you enjoy this exclusive story.  

DON'S WORDS ON CREATIVE POWER: DON'S STORY OF EDIE AND ELTON

 My strong connection to music began on Wednesday, Oct. 10, 1979 in Northrop Auditorium on the campus of the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis. I can still vividly remember the energy and anticipation that evening, it was simply electric! As the house lights went down, some 4,800 fans broke into a thunderous roar as song recording star Elton John took the stage and to my surprise, I was all alone. It was just Elton, his piano and a single spotlight that launched that magical night into flight. That evening three college friends and I experienced the awesome Creative Power of Elton John's music. My immediate reaction to the night included feelings of happiness, euphoria and joy . All of this was a welcome respite from a very difficult and traumatic time in my life.

Years earlier; after my mother Edie’s kindergarten incident, my mother was diagnosed with brain cancer. The family doctor gave my mother only three months to live following a very difficult brain surgery. Against all odds, my mother survived not only months, but years. It wasn't until I was junior year in high school that my mother underwent a second brain surgery, and another hellish round of chemotherapy and radiation treatments. But the toll of the grapefruit-size brain tumor and the multiple surgeries had left my mother blind and in need of constant care.

For the most part, I never knew what it was like to have a normal mother. Early on, I grew up having to be my mother's eyes and daily care giver. But I never looked at it that way. For myself, she was a mom just like any other mom. She was very strong mentally and carried herself with a quiet dignity. Throughout her struggles, she never complained and always exemplied an attitude of gratitude. She is and will always be, my greatest hero.

The Elton John concert took place during a time that the health of my mother was once again seriously deteriorating. Her seizures were coming so often that she had to be hospitalized. She was given a mouth guard to prevent her from biting her own tongue. Eventually, she fell into a coma. I was a college junior at St. John’s University. Witnessing my mother's final weeks of suffering brought intense feelings of pain, isolation and helplessness. It was impossible for me to try to concentrate on his studies. Things got so bad that I seriously considered dropping out of college. It was a difficult time for me, trying to adhere to the gracious standards of my dying mother and yet torn apart by all the pain and misery she had to endure. It just wasn't fair. In fact, it "SUCKED!”

Before the concert on that October 1979 night, I had been an Elton John fan for some time. However, after that night, my loyalty became almost fanatical.  

Somehow, the experience of that evening, tapped into my Creative Power and hardwired a link between music and positive emotions within myself. As crazy as it may sound, music, especially Elton’s, became my tool for escaping anxiety and discovering personal freedom. Music became emotionally hardwired into my spiritual psyche to connect me with the feelings of joy, bliss and euphoria. From that day forward, whenever I am feeling down or depressed, I just plug in to my favorite tunes and it changes my mood almost instantaneously. Within moments, my mind is transported to a magical place: one of positive energy, universal power and divine purpose. 

This is the magnitude that Creative Power can have!  

 

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RECEPTIVE CHOICE : Dance With The Elephant

 

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Receptive Choice is the second part of Life's Cosmic Equation that empowers you to discover the path in life that matches your creative power.  It frees you from the shackles of family and social norms which allows you to break free into the horizon of your unique and personal destiny in life. 

To apply Receptive Choice into your daily life requires a four step process.  Stop, Look, Choose and Act.  You first have to STOP what you're doing long enough to step back from the patterns of your past.  Take some time to LOOK in the mirror and see yourself for who you truly are at this moment in time.  How does what you see identify, support and further develop your Creative Power in life?  CHOOSE if what you see and where you are is where you want to be in the future.  Finally, ACT upon the choices you make to better match a path that will guide you to life's destiny and your chosen cosmic legacy.

Receptive Choice is really the golden ticket, the precious key, to understanding how to take total control and responsibility of your life. Receptive Choice means you’re going to be open and available to your creative energy. You will consciously work to understand, nurture and develop yourself, so you can maximize your unique journey in the universe. You will learn to accept responsibility for your choices and purpose in life. Receptive Choice is understanding that you control the steering wheel, brakes, and gas pedal of your life.

Since life began as we know it, all living organisms have been a part of the cosmic law of unity. Everything exists in unity with something else. Nothing lives in total isolation or independence. All living things are constantly evolving in a continuous dance with similar species, toward greater complexity and higher forms of interaction. This activity has been studied and documented by the science community that even simple cells have social and cosmic interaction. We know organic living cells, birds, fish, mammals all show signs of interaction, repelling, and attraction. We may not think they are given Receptive Choice, but they fully demonstrate through their capacity of survival, the ability to adapt and evolve through space and time. 

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Receptive Choice is the second part of Life's Cosmic Equation that empowers you to discover the path in life that matches your creative power.  It frees you from the shackles of family and social norms which allows you to break free into the horizon of your unique and personal destiny in life. 

To apply Receptive Choice into your daily life requires a four step process.  Stop, Look, Choose and Act.  You first have to STOP what you're doing long enough to step back from the patterns of your past.  Take some time to LOOK in the mirror and see yourself for who you truly are at this moment in time.  How does what you see identify, support and further develop your Creative Power in life?  CHOOSE if what you see and where you are is where you want to be in the future.  Finally, ACT upon the choices you make to better match a path that will guide you to life's destiny and your chosen cosmic legacy.

Receptive Choice is really the golden ticket, the precious key, to understanding how to take total control and responsibility of your life. Receptive Choice means you’re going to be open and available to your creative energy. You will consciously work to understand, nurture and develop yourself, so you can maximize your unique journey in the universe. You will learn to accept responsibility for your choices and purpose in life. Receptive Choice is understanding that you control the steering wheel, brakes, and gas pedal of your life.

Since life began as we know it, all living organisms have been a part of the cosmic law of unity. Everything exists in unity with something else. Nothing lives in total isolation or independence. All living things are constantly evolving in a continuous dance with similar species, toward greater complexity and higher forms of interaction. This activity has been studied and documented by the science community that even simple cells have social and cosmic interaction. We know organic living cells, birds, fish, mammals all show signs of interaction, repelling, and attraction. We may not think they are given Receptive Choice, but they fully demonstrate through their capacity of survival, the ability to adapt and evolve through space and time. 

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Discovering Your Creative Power : Dance With The Elephant

 

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Your Dance With The Elephant begins by discovering, nurturing and leveraging your Creative Power. You were born with a gift that you are destined to share with the world. 

 

Certainly we have all heard about life's purpose, its destiny, our personal passion and one's precious gifts. They all have their origins in the source of Creative Power. It wasn't until science discovered that the death of stars creating the elements that make up you and me that the Creative Power connection between all things was discovered. 

 

Realizing and discovering your creative power will be the most powerful realization and connection to your personal destiny in all of life. It becomes a source of daily energy, vibrance, joy and exhilaration that will bring purpose and meaning to your life.

 

You are unique, different and special. In fact, like each of the lone stars in the sky, there is no one exactly like you in the entire universe. You alone bring to this world the perfect combination of gifts, talents, knowledge, body and spirit. Your Creative Power is your personal treasure chest waiting to be opened, explored and discovered. It is your purpose and destiny to apply your Creative Power in this world to make an extraordinary contribution for yourself, your family, your community, your country, your world and your universe. It is the people you touch during the journey in life that makes the difference in what will be your legacy.

 

Discovering your Creative Power is your link and connection to everyone and everything around you. It’s the spark that lights the re within you every day to meet life’s challenges and opportunities. No one can truly tell you what your Creative Power is. It’s something that only you can discover and nurture within yourself. It can be as simple as truly enjoying the smell of owers in a garden or as complex as the pursuit of some new theory of relativity in the universe. You personally have a role to play and a story to contribute that will make a difference. There is a self-manifestation, a purpose, a driving force that burns within you. You are meant to tap into your Creative Power and let it guide you to reaching your destiny. Call it what you like: life’s purpose; its destiny; your personal passions; or life's precious gifts. All of these are describing the same universal source, your Creative Power. 

 

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A STORY OF FAITH : HOW THE AUTHOR'S OF DANCE WITH THE ELEPHANT CAME TOGETHER TO WRITE THIS BOOK.

AS TOLD BY DUANE KUSS:

Don and I meet together once a month with a group of four persons who call themselves a "C.O.T." group or "Circle Of Trust". The purpose of the group is centered around the same four pillars of support: respect, trust, desire for growth and confidentiality. It was at one of our monthly meetings that I challenged Don to meet with me at 5:00 AM on a Thursday morning and to explore the possibility of writing a book together. We agreed to meet a minimum of four consecutive Thursdays and after that decide if we had the workings of a book and a reason to continue our efforts together.

My purpose in life has always been to explore and discover. I could be called a 21st century Christopher Columbus with the only difference being, instead of sailing the ocean blue, I explore the internet too! Every day, via e-newsletters; group emails; RSS feeds; Facebook exchanges; Twitter entries; Google searches; and live webcasts, I surf the internet exploring a myriad of topics that interest me. As a writer, speaker, consultant and publisher, I track a wide range of subjects daily. You might think of me as a selfcontained media network. It’s my "Creative Power" that inspires me to explore, discover and apply new ideas, concepts and technologies I learned online.

Don and I have known each other for more than a decade. Don's granite memorial company was one of my customers when I first launched my DigElog online publishing network. More recently, the we have become best friends primarily through our monthly C.O.T. group meetings. Don has been involved with monument sales all of his professional career. He holds true to his Irish heritage by capturing his client's attention with delightful stories, always intermixed with his wonderful sense of humor. Don is a story teller and has always dreamed of combining his stories together into the chapters of a book.

It was the morning of the C.O.T. group's monthly meeting in October of 2011. I was working in my home office on Hermit Lake and this morning I was viewing a web video series on information product design, including the topics of course development and book design. One of the guest speakers is from Israel and he catches my attention when he promises to share his step-by-step process for writing an entire book in a single week. That evening, at the C.O.T meeting, Don once again embellished a story and concluded his entertaining narrative with his favorite cliche, "You know, some day I really should write a book!" But this time, instead of the group placating Don with nodding heads, I shifted forward in my chair and looked Don direct in the eye.

"Don, I have heard you use that phrase a hundred times, if I have heard it once. It's time to make your dream come true and I have discovered a way to help you write your book." said Duane.

Okay, so what does this long-winded story have to do with the cosmic equation topic of Faith? And how is it that I would think I could help Don write a book, when neither of us have any previous training or experience in knowing what it would take?

What you can witness in this story is my taking a "leap of faith". Even though I had no rational reason or evidence to indicate that Don or I could research, write, design and publish a book, I had "faith" that our time together would result in something positive. We both had faith, that at the very minimum, our experience together would bring purpose and meaning to our own lives.

Over the next 18 months, Don and I not only developed the 100 topics for four books, but we discovered a new way of defining the journey of life itself. Think about it: two slightly above average family guys; a techie and a monument salesman; living in the land of "Lake Wobegon"; come together for a few 5 AM breakfasts and in the process discover a simple way of describing humanity's role in the universe. Together we dreamed up three simple equations based on the "Me", "We", and "What Will Be" contribution every human being makes in the world. Three equations that explain the creation of each individual's Cosmic Legacy in the universe.

Don and I had faith that their combined Creative Power and personal experience with Receptive Choice, would magically guide us into the unknown future and eventually bring us to a point of discovery worth writing about. Now, whether you agree or disagree with the principles presented in this book, which introduce life's three equations to the world for the first time, most people would have to agree that, the chance that any of this would be created by two slightly above average "Lake Wobegon" guys, is a miracle unto itself. And faith played a critical role in the entire process!

If you are a person of religious or spiritual faith, understanding the kind of faith Don and I had in each other, may seem quite trivial. In order for anyone to have a faith and belief in a religion, it requires a certain amount of trust in the unknown and undefined. There’s a piece of every religion that requires faith because there are no tangible answers or proofs of its doctrines and mandates. Don and I had complete faith, trust and condence that our journey had a denite purpose in our lives. We also believed that the results of our efforts would at the very least make a difference in our personal lives, even if we failed at writing and publishing our book. 

 

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Understanding The Power of Receptive Choice : Dance With The Elephant

 

Receptive Choice is the second part of Life's Cosmic Equation that empowers you to discover the path in life that matches your creative power.  It frees you from the shackles of family and social norms which allows you to break free into the horizon of your unique and personal destiny in life. 

To apply Receptive Choice into your daily life requires a four step process.  Stop, Look, Choose and Act.  You first have to STOP what you're doing long enough to step back from the patterns of your past.  Take some time to LOOK in the mirror and see yourself for who you truly are at this moment in time.  How does what you see identify, support and further develop your Creative Power in life?  CHOOSE if what you see and where you are is where you want to be in the future.  Finally, ACT upon the choices you make to better match a path that will guide you to life's destiny and your chosen cosmic legacy.

Receptive Choice is really the golden ticket, the precious key, to understanding how to take total control and responsibility of your life. Receptive Choice means you’re going to be open and available to your creative energy. You will consciously work to understand, nurture and develop yourself, so you can maximize your unique journey in the universe. You will learn to accept responsibility for your choices and purpose in life. Receptive Choice is understanding that you control the steering wheel, brakes, and gas pedal of your life.

Since life began as we know it, all living organisms have been a part of the cosmic law of unity. Everything exists in unity with something else. Nothing lives in total isolation or independence. All living things are constantly evolving in a continuous dance with similar species, toward greater complexity and higher forms of interaction. This activity has been studied and documented by the science community that even simple cells have social and cosmic interaction. We know organic living cells, birds, fish, mammals all show signs of interaction, repelling, and attraction. We may not think they are given Receptive Choice, but they fully demonstrate through their capacity of survival, the ability to adapt and evolve through space and time. 

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