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Do you have the curiosity, passion, and tenacity needed to learn how to “Dance With The Elephant”?
The “Dance with the Elephant” experience is not for everyone. Only one in ten will be brave enough to take this journey. To test your fortitude for the challenge, there are four pillars of understanding that support the walls of this special world. You must agree to each of the four pillar principles in order to comprehend and apply the visionary tenets presented throughout this book.
Think of it like Dorothy's adventure in the "Wizard of Oz" story. Your journey will include Dorothy, the Scarecrow, the Tin Man, and the Lion. All four will provide you guidance in how to follow the yellow brick road on your journey to the world of "Dancing Elephants". The place where "dreams really do come true" and your "personal cosmic legacy" will be discovered.
Introducing the first pillar of understanding and agreement.
The world you live in is saturated with cultural binaries and dualities: black and white; right and wrong; big and small; best and worst; allies and enemies. Just take a moment and think about all the yin and yangs that pummel you each and every day of life. In order to exist and function mentally as human beings, each of us begins to digest the world at a very young age and unconsciously establish accepted norms and social principles that in effect define our personal binary extremes. Since birth most of us have lived with parents, siblings and relatives who had certain traditions, values and norms. The group of people you live with are located in a geographical location that has a dominant culture, religion and societal framework. All these pieces of the puzzle play a role in forming your personality, character and temperament. To exist with in a social system, one must conform to the norms and values of that system.
What are the characteristics of a pretty girl versus an ugly one? What determines a husband that is a good provider compared to a worthless bum. How much money does it take to live on the rich side of town and how poor do you have to be to live on the other side of the tracks? The daily judgements you make based on social bias spins a subconscious web of security around you. Societies exist to provide a framework under which people can live from day to day without going stir crazy.
To "Dance With The Elephant" you must first come to RESPECT the need for every person to create their unique mental balance and way of looking at life in a world of endless dualities. All of us have done our best to create a stability in life as best we can, based on the genetics passed down to us from our parents and the environment we grow up in. Each human being deserves to be treated with high regard, admiration and honor, just because they exist. There is no such thing as the need to earn respect or to satisfy a series of cultural prerequisites. Just the very presence of another living, breathing person, merits your respect of their inherent dignity.
Respect means that you have the desire and ability to recognize value, worth and virtue in others. Although their story and life experiences will very likely be different from yours, you will resist the need to judge them, knowing there are always new ways of thinking about and observing the world around you. Paradoxically, until you can truly respect and appreciate the people you have opportunity to connect with in life, you'll find it impossible to honestly love and accept yourself. You can't give, what you don't already have. Respect is a gift that when your learn how to "Dance With The Elephant", you give it freely.
Should you choose to "Dance With The Elephant", as you travel down the yellow brick road, your journey will likely include many road blocks, detours and "road under construction" signs. You will be faced with all of life's favorite emotional road bumps including guilt, shame, blame and self-criticism. All the demons of your past will have the chance to surface their ugly heads during your personal pilgrimage through this book. But different from just allowing these emotions to run round and round in your mind as they have in the past, here you'll have a road map to follow. You'll discover a way to respect your life experiences and accept them for what they are. The process will empower you to make choices today, that will leverage your natural creative power and move you toward a more fulfilling life destiny.
Your individual life experiences and perceptions have great value. It is important for you to respect your personal journey and story for the magnificent contribution it has and will make to the world. Like a single grain of sand you see while walking along an ocean beach, each tiny pebble plays an equal part in contributing to the beach as a whole. Respecting someone else's journey, demands a personal desire for you to be open to the perceptions of others, even if they are diametrically opposed to your own. Respect requires the use and practice active listening skills. It demands that you invest your time and energy into the relationship because you know there's significance there and value in their story. They too, are a rare and important grain of sand found on the seashore of life.
Guides Rules To Dance With The Elephant - RESPECT
- Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and feelings.
- Dance participants are encouraged to use active listening skills.
- Try to always gain clear and accurate understanding of each dancer's point of view.
- Try to be as optimistic and positive as possible with those you dance with.
- Be willing to invest your time and energy to improving the life of your dance partner and the dance team.