A dying, grief and loss story direct from their book now made available in this short video, author Don Calhoun tells of the tragic loss of his brother and the parallel story of the parents of a strapping young man who's heart gives up during a high school wrestling match. If you have lost someone and are struggling with grief, this story will interest you.
It was my first day back to work since my brother Bob had unexpectedly passed away. My primary mentor in life, the man I considered as my second father, the guy I always aspired to be like, was taken away from me in an instant; he just fell down one day in his cabin and died at age sixty-three. For the first time in my life, I, the professional memorial counselor, was faced with the sobering reality my clients bring to me every day: the fact that death and the loss of loved ones suck! The reality was that I was still suffering a bushel basket of grief, and my mental state was in no way ready to handle the emotional anguish of another grieving client.
But sometimes miracles happen, and the moment you feel like... the storms of life are about to drown you in sorrow, someone throws you a life jacket of hope. That morning, a couple walked through the office door that had traveled a hundred miles to see me. I had never met Kris and Rod before, but our coming together that day was surely divine providence. The same week my brother had died, they too suffered a startling loss. Their son Miles, a strapping young man on the high school wrestling team, had suddenly collapsed and died during a wrestling match. He had been born with a rare heart defect that remained undetected until that fatal moment on the mat, in front of all of his teammates. The parents, still in shock and consumed by their grief, were looking to find a memorial that would appropriately represent their cherished son.
We were three weeping souls that auspiciously came together that day and poured our buckets of pain and suffering onto the floor of my office. Normally it's my job to ask penetrating emotional questions to help clients dig deeper into the meaningful stories of their loved ones. I instinctively act out of love and caring for the grieving family. But that day was different. That day, I desperately needed... love and support for the loss of my brother as much as Kris and Rod looked for comfort with their son. We were mutual guiding spirits and established a trusting bond together that would buoy us over the next couple of months as the memorial design process for their son's monument evolved.
During our final meeting together Kris turned to me out in the parking lot and looked directly into my eyes: "Don, thank you for helping me understand and process Miles' death. You, better than anyone inside or outside my family, helped me connect to the loving gift he still is to me." I replied that fortuitously she had done the same and helped me rise from the emotional abyss of my brother's death to understand how his spirit stills lives in me. Together, we remembered the gifts, lessons, and stories that both Bob and Miles gave to life. We gave honor and respect to the legacy of their lives and recognized their unending spirits within us.
Recognizing Their Unending Spirits Within Us ....
Did this story strike a note in your heart? Are you also trying to figure out the meaning of someone you recently lost in life? This is an example of the many discerning and insightful stories you'll find in the book: http://DanceWithTheElephant.us
Duane Kuss and Don Calhoun combine to write a compelling book filled with insightful personal stories, life-changing exercises and challenging research based life principles. The goal is to learn how to dance with your personal elephants (secrets) in order to reach a more enriched and fulfilling life, leaving a legacy that matches your creative contribution and potential destiny in the universe. You will be given powerful building blocks that will become a strong foundation and road map for your life's journey. "Dance with the Elephant: Life's Cosmic Equation could be the hidden treasure that will help you to unlock and unleash your Cosmic Legacy!